MOTHER’S Ds: DAD & DOULA


The evidence on Doulas is numerous. Research has shown and proved that “Doulas can empower women to achieve the best birth outcomes possible, and all outcomes—for births, infants, and mothers—seem to be affected more positively if support is provided by a doula in addition to the medical personnel.” However, I sense that there is also great misconception about us doulas.

Doulas are not only there for the expecting mother, in fact, doulas are actually there to support and to serve the expecting father too. This means that a Doula joins to help, to encourage, to support and to serve the family -both mom and dad. So, a doula plays an important role in helping your partner to feel confident and empowered in knowing how he can help you the best. I cannot say it enough times, a doula will never take the place of your partner! A doula will instead empower your partner!

It is well known that one of the best ways to support a pregnant woman is through strengthening her confidence in her ability to give birth. Likewise, it is known that the partner most of the times is the person whom a mom will hear, will reach for and/or will turn to see during the challenging times of birth. This means that it is dad’s behavior and level of confidence that could give a mother that extra burst of confidence or could give extra anxiety. So, the partner will benefit from the doula’s guidance and the doula’s knowledge that it was acquired through the training and certification as well as through the previous experiences.

In an article, Maria Pyanov CPD, CCE wrote:

Being the sole emotional and physical support for a laboring woman can be overwhelming for some partners. If we look at birth throughout history, we often see women surrounded by other experienced women offering continuous support. Our shift in birth norms over the last century has made it uncommon to have multiple continuous support people. Partners provide an intimate and essential role that cannot be replaced, but a doula can come alongside to help relieve the pressure of being the sole support of a laboring woman.”

So, how can a Doula empower you and your partner through this unique journey of yours?

I strongly believe that one of the best ways to support a birthing woman is to help build her confidence in her ability to give birth. And, a doula will help your partner feel empower through evidence based information so he can help you maintain that confidence and strength during the challenging times of childbirth.